Holly Buhler

Secure Attachment: Understanding Attachment Styles Spiritually

Attachment theory, often used in therapeutic settings, was created by John Bowlby in the mid-20th century, yet it remains deeply relevant today. From early childhood, we form attachments to our primary caregivers. These early relationships, for better or worse, continue shaping how we relate to others in adulthood. Based on the level of care and…

The Importance of Pausing: Finding Beauty Along the Way

I met Dave on a bridge. I had stopped there during a walk along one of my usual paths. The bridge overlooked a small stream, and something unusual had caught my attention: three deer were playing in the water, jumping back and forth, while a few others grazed quietly in the nearby bushes. The air…

The Importance of Lament: Making Space for Honest Emotion

I grew up with an understanding about emotions, especially anger. Anger meant disrespect.Anger meant disobedience.Anger meant mistrust. If I expressed anger toward my parents, it was seen as a failure to respect their authority. If I felt anger toward God, it was framed as a lack of trust in His will for my life. Maybe…

Protecting Your Energy: Learning the Difference Between Full and Drained

As I’ve continued practicing presence in my daily life, I’ve started to notice something important: There is a clear difference between when I feel energized and when I feel exhausted. When I’m energized, I feel open.I’m flexible, able to handle interruptions, and genuinely excited to participate in what’s in front of me. My creativity flows…