Holly Buhler

Rupture, Repair, and the Formation of Safety

Rupture is not an attachment style, but it is one of the most important concepts for understanding how attachment styles form and how they heal. Rupture simply means a break in emotional connection. It can be small or large. A misunderstanding. A missed need. A moment of emotional distance. A conflict that creates tension. Or…

Disorganized Attachment: Understanding Attachment Styles Spiritually

In the last post, we explored avoidant attachment and how emotional distance can become a form of protection when closeness has not felt safe or reliable. In this final post of the series, we turn to the most complex attachment pattern: disorganized attachment. Disorganized attachment is often described as having no consistent strategy for connection.…

Avoidant Attachment: Understanding Attachment Styles Spiritually

In the last post, we explored anxious attachment, what it feels like to long for closeness while also fearing its loss. In this post, we turn to the other side of the same spectrum: avoidant attachment. Avoidant attachment is often misunderstood as independence, self-sufficiency, or emotional strength. But underneath it is usually something more tender:…

Anxious Attachment: Understanding Attachment Styles Spiritually

In the last post, we explored secure attachment, what it feels like when connection is steady, reliable, and safe enough to explore the world from; In this post, we move into a different experience of connection: anxious attachment. Anxious attachment is fueled by a deep need for security and ongoing reassurance that the connection is…